Very very interesting topic (tag) by Chinnee about rod/cane.
Using a cane has to be careful because if it is out of control, it will injure the child due to uncontrollable emotion. We only started to introduce cane to Jeriel after he is 3 years old when he understands the reason of cane. However, we do not simple use to cane. Usually we will warn and reasoning with Jeriel so that he know why he was caned. Sometimes, he will ask for another chance before we caned him.
PaPa reads a lot of Dr James Dobson’s books about disciplining a child (still reading). PaPa said that a hand is to love a child not to beat a child, so that’s why PaPa does not use his hands to beat Jeriel. PaPa also learnt that it is not wise to use other things like ruler, cooking ladle and others to replace the cane because it is not meant for caning. Caning is only allowed on the buttock, not on hands or other part of the body.
Cane is always the last resort. We avoid using cane by starting to talk to him and Jeriel learn to give his reason and negotiate with us. Jeriel knows that if he disobeys, the cane will be last resort we used. When Jeriel gets a cane, he will not dare to cry (some tears in his eyes) because he knows that he is being warned and it is his fault that he continues to disobey. Whenever any one of us disciplines Jeriel, we are not allowed to go against it which will spoil all the purpose of discipline. So, when PaPa disciplines Jeriel, Jeriel knows that Mummy cannot help him, so vice versa.
Would like to know how the following friends deal with their kid/s
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Tag 5 bloggers1st - You leave their blog and post link and add to the list below.2nd - Let the blogger know that they have been tagged by leaving comment in their blog.
1. Miche does not spare the rod.
2. Chinnee still spare the rod at this moment.
3. chanelwong uses the rod as the last resort and with careful.
11 comments:
He,he...I have to 'wave' my cane to threaten Jona...otherwise, really uncontrollable....
If XY is as well-mannered n well-behaved like Jeriel, then I don't hv to raise my voice or cane her that often.
Owe you this tag first :)
i bet you guys hardly use the cane cause Jeriel is such a good boy already.
hi hi, this is my first visit to your blog!
lovely blog and very informative too.
i have a request, can i copy your tag into my blog and pass it on to my friends??
From what I'd read, I think Jeriel is a very well behaved boy. If only my gals are just as obedient, I dont hv to use the rod.
Jeriel is a good boy and I do agree with you that when we are emotional, we can harm our kids.
I've always learnt that Jeriel is a more mature boy at his age....
And it is good that you & yr huby respect each other during diciplining episode....not like my huby...always side his sons, sigh!!
mamajo
you just wave n works? not bad...not every kid like Jone
slavemom
i do raise my voice until sooo tired...
huisia
take your time
mama of 2littlefellas
now quite often..as he grow bigger
km
you can continue the tag in your blog...
health freak mommy
we still have to use unlike chinnee
jo-n
you are the most patient and great in managing kids..
salute you and your hubby in disciplin Jeriel...I'm still learning coz I'm very emotional and DH too easy to get angry... haii....
Peridot&Sapphire
then both can balance up...
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